Your Thoughts Determine Your Actions

I have always said that how you think affects what you say or do. As much as I truly think that this is true and am always telling my friends and customers this, I was able to actually see it in real life the other day.

I have many jobs and one is coaching gymnastics once a week. While I was assisting coaching an advanced class, I was teaching the girls to do cartwheels on the beam. One girl said something that really hit me. When I asked her to do her cartwheel she said she couldn’t do it, and she was right! She wasnt landing on the beam at all! Like wasn’t even close! She wasn’t landing because she told her self that she couldn’t do it, it had nothing to do with if she was capable or not, it was only because she told her self that she wasn’t able to do it and her brain was trying to not make her a lier. She convinced herself that she couldn’t do it so she wasn’t going to. No amount of spotting was going to help her, her body would fight to not land on the beam when I was helping her. But when I asked her to do a cartwheel on a straight line it was perfect. So in theory she could do it, but she was determined that she couldn’t land it and instead of fighting to get her feet on the beam her body was fighting to not land on the beam.

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When I heard her say those words “I can’t” I immediately asked her to stop what she was doing. I told her that if she was going to keep telling herself that she couldn’t land this, that she likely never will and that she is fully capable of doing this skill!! I asked her to say that she was going to land it! She of course laughed at me, like any tween would do, but I was serious. She wasn’t allowed to take her turn until she said that she could do this and she was going to land it! That shift in thinking drastically changed her progression. Her next turn she got her front foot on and by the end of class she was very close to landing her cartwheels. Now a week later she can land her cartwheels.

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Always be mindful of what you tell yourself because  your thoughts and words will determine your actions. If you truly want something to happen to you, you need to believe it will happen. That chatter in your mind, those little words that say “your a failure” “you always give up so why bother”  “you have bad luck” “nothing ever goes your way”, those are going to keep being true as long as you keep saying them to yourself. You need to check your self, be aware of what you are telling yourself on a daily basis. Once you are aware of the things that you are telling yourself then you can start to replace when with positive affirmations that will help you live a happier life and start seeing what you want in your life. If you have self confidence issues and your mind keeps saying “you are stupid” every time you make a little mistake or something doesn’t go your way you are gong to start believing that you are stupid! Instead when you hear yourself saying that chatter replace it with “I am improving” “I can do this” “I am strong” or something simple such as “I am Smart’! The more you start replacing these negative thoughts with positive ones the more you will start seeing a difference in your life!

What positive affirmations are you telling yourself this week?

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There Will be Days Like This

ilovegreeninspiration_canopy_bed_2I know I’m not alone as I lay in my bed feeling hopeless, lost and confused. My attempts at reading my personal development book resulted in tears and made me question my decisions even further. How did I get here? What happened that I ended up in this position? Yes my life may look put together from the outside. But I promise you it’s not. I have a million things that go through my head every day and they all seems to contradict each other. Nothing is ever black and white, how Id like it to be. NO! I swear my brain has invented new shades of grey just to make me even more confused than I already was.

What I thought I wanted for my life has hit a road block and to be honest I have no idea why! Why is it that pushing to live my dream and my passion is so hard?! I guess what they say about if it’s worth it it’s not easy is true. But boy this better be worth it! I love helping people and that will never change but I’m struggling right now for the distinction that I need to make this my own.

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I am searching for something that only I will know what it is when I find it. No one else can tell me what it is except me. And let me tell you. That certainly doesn’t make things any easier! I know this dream I have for my life. But all the steps in between are so unclear.
So where do I go from here?

Forward! I know where I have come from and what I have been through and I am going to ensure that I use it to propel me into the life I dream about. I will ensure that my decisions and actions align with my goal. I want my whole life to be aligned. It is when one part of you is going against the rest that things stop making sense. When you feel like you are fighting to hold on to yourself or constantly needing to recharge, it is time to let go of what is causing that energy to be drawn out of you. It can only go on for so long. You can only fight for so long until you are broken down and you either give in or give up. Never let yourself reach that point. Listen to your gut and believe what it is telling you. It will never fail you. I promise you this.

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Super Fantabulous Energizing Saturday

Not my usual way of describing a Saturday that is for sure (especially because I am normally working). But this Saturday wasn’t like most. This Saturday I was surrounded by a group of amazing people who were all passionate about helping others reach for their goals and living the healthiest happiest life they possibly could!

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What could be better than this?

Not much let me tell you!

I knew about this event a while before I committed to going. Why? Because I had to make sacrifices to go, I had to take the day off work, which meant giving up a busy waitressing shift and loosing out on money. I also had to give up some sleep to get up early and get to the event. Ill be honest this wasn’t easy to do! January is the slowest month for waitressing so its a really big sacrifice to give up a good shift. But I worked really hard in December and I knew that going to this event would help propel my business and my personal journey in the new year so I finally bit the bullet and made the decision to go!

And boy was it worth it!

Not only did I get to meet new people

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I gained some amazing perspective and therefore goals for the new year.

I have decided that this year will be my strongest year yet! I will not only be stronger physically, but mentally, emotionally and financially!! I know that wont be easy and it will take a lot of hard work, but I know its possible!

Some takeaways that I learned on this amazing Saturday are:

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Never stop running toward your dreams!

Take control of your life and your destiny! No one else will change your life except you. So stop blaming other people, other situations, or your circumstances and take control of your life and start making the changes and decisions that will help you reach your goals.

Ask the universe for what you want! How you think affects what you say and do. So think positively and look for the positive in life, and you will start to see more positive things. We all have an internal voice that will govern what we think or say or do. What is yours telling you? Check that voice, don’t let it tell you that you can’t do things, because it will convince you that you can’t if you let it.

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Courage is simply the willingness to be afraid and act anyways

You cant give a shit about what other people thing

We also got to eat some yummy energy balls before our group exercise, they were the perfect pick me up, since I forgot a snack and the event went late.

 

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1 cup  oatmeal  or steel cut oats

1/2 cup all natural peanut butter 1/3 cup raw honey                              1 cup unsweetened coconut flakes 1/2 cup ground flaxseed                           1 scoop Shakeology – any flavor     1 tsp natural vanilla

Mix all together and form into balls.  Wrap with wax paper and store in freezer.

Note :   you can also throw in 1/2 cup mixed nuts for some added crunch.  If you choice to do this, you might need a splash of water.

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We all have two dates in common

Start date – End date

What will you do with your dash?

 

 

 

Searching for our dreams and passion. 

Finding my passion was always something that I was stumped on. Not just unsure of, but had absolutely no idea where to even start even trying to find my passion. I thought I knew what my passion was, I really did. I wanted to help people, then I tried to follow that passion and it didn’t work. I went to school. Got my degree in Nutrition and Food and applied for my internships because that is what you did after you graduated. But I didn’t get in to anyplace that I applied to, and I was lost. I hated my job and couldn’t even get a job in the field that I went to school for. I didn’t know what to do or where to turn. They didn’t prepare you for what you do when you don’t get your internship. All your training to to help you become a Registered Dietitian, but what happens when that doesn’t work out?

600403_4523316134930_345577266_nYou feel like you failed, and are lost and confused. Your dream that you worked for four years to pursue is gone, just like that!

I looked at tons of different fields and thought about going to back to school but I couldn’t decide what to do. I think I changed my mind a couple times a month for 6 months! I talked to people in different fields tried to get an idea of what different jobs were really like and what the best way to get it that field was.

But nothing ever felt right. I remember telling my ex I just wanted to help people. But he didn’t think that’s really what I wanted to do. I knew in my heart that I did what to do that, but I couldn’t figure out how to do it. I originally thought I wanted to become a dietitian, but it caused me so much pain and I resented it. I couldn’t even stand talking about the field i was hurt so badly be my failure. So what to do?

I finally decided, after talking to an executive director, that I wanted to go into marketing. I loved a lot about the field and decided that it would give me more opportunities. Even though it meant that I would be giving up on helping people. So I redid my resume and applied to admin and marketing jobs. But nothing was working. I was trying the hardest I have in my life to find a job and nothing!!

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It wasn’t until I was talking to a friend who started up a fitness coaching biz and I tried one of their programs that it clicked. This is what I want to be doing! I still has that passion for helping people. That will never go away. But now I have a way to help women live healthier and happier lives while designing my own life. And the best part is that I have the opportunity to help others do the exact same as me. I can let people follow their dreams and help others while making a living for them self. I feel like I stumbled upon the greatest gift ever.

While I am still working as a waitress to help pay the bills, my feeling of failure has disappeared. I finally feel like i am making difference in peoples lives. Although it may not pay all the bills right now, its getting there! I believe in this business because I know that everyone deserves to feel healthy and happy and like their life has meaning, because it does!
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If you struggle to find your passion look at your heart and what it beats faster for. But also look at what you do when you don’t have to do anything else. I work my business. in my downtime I work, when I have any spare moment I work! I put off laundry and chores to work! WHY?? Let me tell you its not because anyone is making me or telling me to. its because I absolutely love what I am doing! That is how you know that you are meant to be in the job that you are in. When you wake up in the morning and you are excited to go to work!

If you don’t feel this way I would love to help you find your passion, and live the life of your dreams.

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Turn your Resolutions into a Reality

This is the time of year that you see the push of people picking up fitness habits and healthy eating. But what happens when the hype of the new year is over and life goes back to normal?

Where are you left then?

What have you set up so that you are held accountable to your goals?

Are you just winging it and hoping for results?

Are you going to the gym. Doing work outs and trying to eat better? What if that isn’t enough?

 

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I’m not saying that you have to be going to the gym and working out for hours a day. Because you certainly do not!! But you need a schedule, something tried and true that produces results and will keep you accountable to your goals.

A program that uses just 30 mins of working out a day, with portion control containers and a fail proof eating plan.

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The most important part of this program is the accountability and a coach! Someone to share your goals with, but more importantly, your struggles. Someone who is there to support and motivate you. And a group of like minded women who share their successes with you.

Comment with your email address, and ill send you more information!

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Not My Plan

Living with my parents, divorced (well almost) and in debt.

Not exactly where I thought I would be at 26. Who am I kidding this is nowhere near where I thought I would be at 26. I pictured myself married, with our own house, working my dream job (dietetics I think?), one child and maybe another on the way. Boy did I get that wrong!! I had the marriage, I had the house. But something was missing. I certainly wasn’t happy.

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And then it all fell apart.

My marriage crumbled, and I moved back in with my parents. Looking back, would I have done things differently? Maybe but maybe not. I made mistakes, ones that I’ll always have to live with. I wish I didn’t hurt the people I did, but I also wish that I wasn’t hurt in the process. A marriage doesn’t fall apart just because of one person, we were in it together. Unfortunately we couldn’t make it work but I know I am happy because of the tough choices we made.

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I wouldn’t be the person I am today without all my mistakes. And I’m pretty happy with who I am. Yes I have things to work on, but we all do. I have quirks, I’m a little crazy, but most importantly I’m happy. A happiness that comes from me. It’s not dependent on anyone else. Yes others may make me happy but I don’t need them to be happy. It’s taken me a very long time to get here. It’s not easy and it’s still something that I have to work at every day but I’m getting there.

After everything is said and done despite not being where I thought I would be in life I know this will work out. I know I will be better because of everything that has happened to me. My life these past couple months have been indescribable. But I have never doubt God’s ability to look after me, love me, and show me his plan. I have finally taken the passengers seat to my life and let him take the wheel. I know that he will be able to take me places I never dreamed of. I have been in awe of his work in my life in this short amount of time. He has certainly removed a lot of things from my life that I never thought I could live without. But I can now see that he was making room for bigger and better things for me.

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I so excited for my life now. I know God has big plans and while I can’t imagine what he has planned. I can see the people he has brought into my life and their amazing gifts. I know that he has placed everyone in my life for a reason. I am ready to start living and giving this life 200%. I’m ready to grow!
I have always had the desire to help people and I believe that the timing of my life and the struggles I have been through have finally out me in the position where I can make a difference in other people’s life. I’m excited for the journey and I’m read to stay others be as happy and healthy as they can be. I’m ready to build a team and make a difference