How To Not Ruin Your Life – living an extraordinary life

A friend posted this recently on Facebook and I just had to share it on here! It is inspiring, and really makes you look at your life from a different perspective. Life wont go how you planned, so embrace it, and life your life to the fullest. I have no idea who the author of these amazing words are, but if you do please comment below so I can give credit where credit it due.


“Great words:

Understand that life is not a straight line. Life is not a set timeline of milestones. It is okay if you don’t finish school, get married, find a job that supports you, have a family, make money, and live comfortably all by this age, or that age. It’s okay if you do, as long as you understand that if you’re not married by 25, or a Vice President by 30 — or even happy, for that matter — the world isn’t going to condemn you. You are allowed to backtrack. You are allowed to figure out what inspires you. You are allowed time, and I think we often forget that. We choose a program right out of high school because the proper thing to do is to go straight to University. We choose a job right out of University, even if we didn’t love our program, because we just invested time into it. We go to that job every morning because we feel the need to support ourselves abundantly. We take the next step, and the next step, and the next step, thinking that we are fulfilling some checklist for life, and one day we wake up depressed. We wake up stressed out. We feel pressured and don’t know why. That is how you ruin your life.

You ruin your life by choosing the wrong person. What is it with our need to fast-track relationships? Why are we so enamored with the idea of first becoming somebody’s rather than somebodies? Trust me when I say that a love bred out of convenience, a love that blossoms from the need to sleep beside someone, a love that caters to our need for attention rather than passion, is a love that will not inspire you at 6am when you roll over and embrace it. Strive to discover foundational love, the kind of relationship that motivates you to be a better man or woman, the kind of intimacy that is rare rather than right there. “But I don’t want to be alone,” we often exclaim. Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. In the midst of this you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity, and when you do meet the person who makes your cells dance, you will be sure of it, because you are sure of yourself. Wait for it. Please, I urge you to wait for it, to fight for it, to make an effort for it if you have already found it, because it is the most beautiful thing your heart will experience.

You ruin your life by letting your past govern it. It is common for certain things in life to happen to you. There will be heartbreak, confusion, days where you feel like you aren’t special or purposeful. There are moments that will stay with you, words that will stick. You cannot let these define you – they were simply moments, they were simply words. If you allow for every negative event in your life to outline how you view yourself, you will view the world around you negatively. You will miss out on opportunities because you didn’t get that promotion five years ago, convincing yourself that you were stupid. You will miss out on affection because you assumed your past love left you because you weren’t good enough, and now you don’t believe the man or the woman who urges you to believe you are. This is a cyclic, self-fulfilling prophecy. If you don’t allow yourself to move past what happened, what was said, what was felt, you will look at your future with that lens, and nothing will be able to breach that judgment. You will keep on justifying, reliving, and fueling a perception that shouldn’t have existed in the first place.

You ruin your life when you compare yourself to others. The amount of Instagram followers you have does not decrease or increase your value. The amount of money in your bank account will not influence your compassion, your intelligence, or your happiness. The person who has two times more possessions than you does not have double the bliss, or double the merit. We get caught up in what our friends are liking, who our significant others are following, and at the end of the day this not only ruins our lives, but it also ruins us. It creates within us this need to feel important, and in many cases we often put others down to achieve that.

You ruin your life by desensitizing yourself. We are all afraid to say too much, to feel too deeply, to let people know what they mean to us. Caring is not synonymous with crazy. Expressing to someone how special they are to you will make you vulnerable. There is no denying that. However, that is nothing to be ashamed of. There is something breathtakingly beautiful in the moments of smaller magic that occur when you strip down and are honest with those who are important to you. Let that girl know that she inspires you. Tell your mother you love her in front of your friends. Express, express, express. Open yourself up, do not harden yourself to the world, and be bold in who, and how, you love. There is courage in that.

You ruin your life by tolerating it. At the end of the day you should be excited to be alive. When you settle for anything less than what you innately desire, you destroy the possibility that lives inside of you, and in that way you cheat both yourself and the world of your potential. The next Michelangelo could be sitting behind a Macbook right now writing an invoice for paperclips, because it pays the bills, or because it is comfortable, or because he can tolerate it. Do not let this happen to you. Do not ruin your life this way. Life and work, and life and love, are not irrespective of each other. They are intrinsically linked. We have to strive to do extraordinary work, we have to strive to find extraordinary love. Only then will we tap into an extraordinarily blissful life.”


Old Window DIY Project

I have been wanting to convert my old farm, 6 pane window into some cool thing like you would see on Pinterest for ages!! I got this one from a friends been and it was in pretty rough shape. So to start with so I had to fix it up to make it strong enough to handle the transformation.

I took all the glass panes out and sanded the entire frame and used wood glue to ensure that all the middle peices were secure.

I then used silicone to seal all the glass panes that I was keeping into the frame. I kept two panes and turned the other into cork boards or chalk boards

I bought all my supplies at micheals and used wood that was laying around my boyfriends house.

For the remaing four sections my boyfriend cut plywood to fit in the back and then glued it in place.

I wanted two panels to be cork so we cut out the cork and glued it to the front of the wood

For the other two I wanted chalkboard so we sanded the plywood and put a couple coats of chalkboard paint on it.

 The last two panes are backed with pretty scrap book paper just held in with a couple nails. I could have modge lodged them on but I didn’t have any and didn’t want to deal with what would happen if it didn’t work. And for now this is working perfectly!!

I cant believe that I put this off for so long! It was much easier than I thought it would be! Hopefully I can find some more windows like this to make more!

I am loving how it looks in my room! And it helps keep my organized!

Looking back- we used rough plywood and just sanded it for the chalkboard. I may redo it and add something smoother on top and it is a little difficult to write on.

Healthy Spin on the Mug Cake

Anyone who knows me, knows I have the biggest sweet tooth. I used to be a huge fan of cake mugs. You know the type that are like half sugar and flour, but taste amazing!? I love those!!!!! Ok lets be honest here I still love them! But I have realized that I probably shouldn’t have them every night of the week. That may or may not have happened a while ago. But I am focusing on my health now, and that means eating better! and no more mug cakes every night after dinner. Sad times I know but that doesn’t meant that I need to miss out on all the cakey goodness

So what is a girl to do when she is craving something sweet and totally bad for her?

Throw a healthy spin on it!!!

I should probably have prefaced this post with “I suck at recipes”. Unless its something like baking bread or making pastry I don’t follow a recipe.

So I will do my best to make this simple to follow, but feel free to throw your own spin on it.

Start with your ingredients this is kind of what I used but you can totally play around with the flavour and texture by adjusting amount of each ingredient the shakeology and some sort of wet ingredients are required if you want this to turn out to resemble some sort of cakey texture:


I mixed all the dry ingredients together and then added the wet ones, playing around with the amount of water that I used. Then I stuck it in the microwave, depending on how you want this to turn out will depend on how long you want it in there for. The longer it is in the microwave, the more cake like it will be and more potential to be dry, the shorter it is in the more gooey and brownie like it will be. So I start with 30 seconds and go up from there.


Peanut butter can be added into the cake before or after the microwave experience. I chose afterwards and spread it on like icing.

Dig in and enjoy!

  Oh and if your following the 21 day fix your containers are: 1.5 red, and 1tsp (if you used the peanut butter and used a calorie free sweetener)

Happy baking… and eating… more importantly happy eating.


This Life is a Story and You are the Writer

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“What you choose to focus on becomes your reality.”
We sometimes get so wrapped up with our lives and the trials and turmoils that we are experiencing, we sometimes forget to take a step back and look and our life from an outside perspective.

Have you ever been driving to work, or someplace that you have been to a million times only to look over to see a store, or a landmark and think how long has that been there? It has probably been there ever since your first drive on that route, but you were so focused on just getting to work, or how bad the traffic is, or belting out your favourite song to notice. Our thoughts work the same way, when we get tunnel vision and only think one way that is all that we can see. When we focus on something like “I have no money” or “I can’t afford that” you cling to these false beliefs.  I know, some of you are screaming at me from behind your computer screens, saying “false belief??!!” Have you seen my bank account?! Trust me this isn’t a false believe! I hear you and I understand where you are coming from, but just listen to me for a second. If you think you have no money have you ever taken a hard look at every dime you spend? Have you looked to see if that timmies coffee was really worth the 2$ when you could make some at home for way cheaper? Now I am not saying to cut back on everything fun in life. But what I am saying to do is to prioritize your spending, and be aware of it. I have been there, I have said that I cant afford to go snowboarding which is 40$, when I had just spent 200$ on a purse the month before. It wasn’t that I couldn’t afford it, but it wasn’t a priority for me. I was choosing to spend my money else where. Look at the things that you are spending your money on. Did you really want to spend that 5 dollars at that fast food restaurant everyday when if you saved that you would have 150$ to put towards your health goals, or even that oil change that you keep putting off because you can’t afford it?

Now let’s say that you are cutting every corner you can to save money and you are still falling behind every month.  I want to get it out there that I am not accusing people who can’t afford to buy groceries or new clothing for their children of not thinking that those things are not a priority. But I do want to say that before you jump ahead and say that you cant afford something that you need to take that hard look at what your spending priorities are and if you are willing to change them. If you are ok with your spending habits and spending extra money on things, then that it totally ok. BUT you need to stop saying that you are broke or cant afford things and realize that you are choosing to spend your money else where. So what happens if you really are falling behind each month? Then what?


You need to change what you put your focus on!! If you keep focusing on how you are broke, that will be all you will see. You need to start focusing on ways to improve your financial situation. Focus on ways to increase what you make in the month. Now this may seem totally out to left field, but just hang on a second and listen to me!

Even if you don’t know how you would make more money or how adding another revenue stream would even look like, just start looking. And I promise that as you start to focus on what you wan,t that is what you will start to see. As you start thinking positively about money, and not letting it control you, you will start to see a world of difference. You are letting your brain focus on something else other than the control that money has over you.

Open doors

Have you ever noticed how when you are looking at buying a new car and you a researching about what type you want and then once you have picked out the car that you love you start seeing it everywhere?!? At the mall, driving to work, or even just walking to get the mail. That car is everywhere, and you begin to think that there must have been a giant sale on them because everyone has one! NOPE!! There are still the same number of those cars (give or take) on the road as there were a few days ago before you decided that you wanted one. But now your are focusing on them and that is all that you see

Start putting this into action in your life now! Write down what you want to see in your life, and look at it every day. Start focusing on what you want to see, instead of what you aren’t happy with. Start shifting those negative thoughts into positive ones, take control back over your life and place your focus on where you want to be.

This life is a story and you are the writer, if you don’t like what has been written for you start writing a new story. You have the power to start your story over again and throw out your old story.

If there is one “story” about you; whether it be “I am too broke” “I am from a poor family” “That isn’t how we do things from where I am from” “that type of job doesn’t make money” that you could rewrite what would it be?

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Day in the life of a 21 day fixer

I have a secret to tell you, I haven’t been following my 21 day fix program to a T. *Shame* I know! How can I call myself a coach if I’m not following a program? I have asked myself this same question! I have felt guilty because I let myself get derailed over Christmas and have been struggling to get back on track ever since!

I have been running my online fitness groups but not fully following a program myself. Yes I work out here and there and eat ok, BUT I really needed to get my butt back in gear and follow a program exactly for a couple rounds to get my body, and mind back where it needs to be. I have be off track and I feel it! Yes my strength is still ok, because I am working out once and a while. BUT I really see a difference in my body when my nutrition is slacking. I had always heard about the 70/30 rule but I never really realized how true it was until I started thinking that I was in shape so I didn’t have to worry too much about what I eat and that I was kind of eating clean. Boy was I wrong! I have really noticed a change in my body lately because I haven’t been dialing in on my meal plans. Well no more! I am getting back on track!

After meal planning and prepping all my food I realized something

I eat more food when I follow the 21 day fix meal plan, than when I am just eating what ever I feel like. But yet my body looks and feels way better! How is this possible? Well its because when I eat what ever I feel like I tend to go for the carby, high calorie foods, but don’t eat as much of them. My body doesn’t get the nutrition that it needs from these foods and therefore doesn’t perform right, or look and feel how I’d like it to either! When I follow the 21 day fix meal plan it ensures that I get a variety of food from all different food groups, from vegetables to protein and even healthy fats! This program ensures that your body is getting the right amount of calories from the right food groups. And you get to eat some yummy foods! Take a look at what I was eating my first day back on the program.


Breakfast! Probably my most favourite meal of the day. During the week I have the morning off so I can actually make myself a good breakfast. When I am busy and waitressing I use my shakeology for breakfast because it keeps me full for so long!


Breakfast: 1 egg, 2 pieces of turkey bacon, cantaloupe and whole wheat toast (1 red, 1 yellow, 1 purple 1/2 tsp (for cooking the egg))

I packed a snack and headed to see my mom for the afternoon, while I was there I was a little hungry but wasn’t ready for my lunch/snacks so I grabbed a couple pecans to tide me over.


A quick snack of 5 pecans while I was at my moms house (1/2 blue)

Ok so 5 pecans can really only go so far! 25 mins later I was working on my snacks/lunch. I knew that I’d be tempted to get off track while I was visiting her so I brought my shakeology to help curb any sugar cravings that I had, and snack foods that I could eat while we visited.


Lunch was on the go this day so I had chocolate shakeology, carrots, cherry tomatoes and red peppers and an apple (1 red, 1 green and 1 purple)

I have been on a bit of a beet kick, so I whipped up a beet a carrot salad, seriously super easy to do with a spiralizer and tastes yummy! Dressing is ginger, lemon juice and a tiny bit of honey. Just want I needed to tide me over until dinner.


A yummy snack after all my running around beet and carrot salad (1 green)

Oh how I love pasta! I would never ever give this up! and I am so glad that I don’t have to! this was also a quick and easy meal (do you see a theme here?) no sauce needed because all the ingredients give it so much flavour!


Dinner Time! Whole wheat pasta with shrimp sautéed veggies (zuchinni and red pepper) topped with parmesan cheese with oil and garlic (1 yellow, 1 red, 1 green 1 1/2 tsp, 1/2 blue)

I always get a sugar craving near bed time, so I save a protein for the evening when that hunger struck. I made an awesome healthy cheese cake that counts as a protein too! I didn’t count the 10 blueberries that I put on top though ( its all about balance and that wont make a huge difference in my results).


protein rich cheesecake make with greek yogurt, cottage cheese, and eggs (I sweetened it with a little honey)


After eating all of this food I certainly end the day feeling fully satisfied! Keep in mind I eat from the lowest calorie bracket, which are determined by weight. So if you weight more than me (I am little) you will get even more food! The best thing about this program is you have so much choice and variety of food! Its perfect for foodies like me who love making new things! The possibilities are endless!!!

If you have been interested in learning more about this program or joining my next fitness accountability group (I run them every month) just hop on over to my comment page and send me a message! I would love to hear from you.



Your Thoughts Determine Your Actions

I have always said that how you think affects what you say or do. As much as I truly think that this is true and am always telling my friends and customers this, I was able to actually see it in real life the other day.

I have many jobs and one is coaching gymnastics once a week. While I was assisting coaching an advanced class, I was teaching the girls to do cartwheels on the beam. One girl said something that really hit me. When I asked her to do her cartwheel she said she couldn’t do it, and she was right! She wasnt landing on the beam at all! Like wasn’t even close! She wasn’t landing because she told her self that she couldn’t do it, it had nothing to do with if she was capable or not, it was only because she told her self that she wasn’t able to do it and her brain was trying to not make her a lier. She convinced herself that she couldn’t do it so she wasn’t going to. No amount of spotting was going to help her, her body would fight to not land on the beam when I was helping her. But when I asked her to do a cartwheel on a straight line it was perfect. So in theory she could do it, but she was determined that she couldn’t land it and instead of fighting to get her feet on the beam her body was fighting to not land on the beam.


When I heard her say those words “I can’t” I immediately asked her to stop what she was doing. I told her that if she was going to keep telling herself that she couldn’t land this, that she likely never will and that she is fully capable of doing this skill!! I asked her to say that she was going to land it! She of course laughed at me, like any tween would do, but I was serious. She wasn’t allowed to take her turn until she said that she could do this and she was going to land it! That shift in thinking drastically changed her progression. Her next turn she got her front foot on and by the end of class she was very close to landing her cartwheels. Now a week later she can land her cartwheels.


Always be mindful of what you tell yourself because  your thoughts and words will determine your actions. If you truly want something to happen to you, you need to believe it will happen. That chatter in your mind, those little words that say “your a failure” “you always give up so why bother”  “you have bad luck” “nothing ever goes your way”, those are going to keep being true as long as you keep saying them to yourself. You need to check your self, be aware of what you are telling yourself on a daily basis. Once you are aware of the things that you are telling yourself then you can start to replace when with positive affirmations that will help you live a happier life and start seeing what you want in your life. If you have self confidence issues and your mind keeps saying “you are stupid” every time you make a little mistake or something doesn’t go your way you are gong to start believing that you are stupid! Instead when you hear yourself saying that chatter replace it with “I am improving” “I can do this” “I am strong” or something simple such as “I am Smart’! The more you start replacing these negative thoughts with positive ones the more you will start seeing a difference in your life!

What positive affirmations are you telling yourself this week?

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There Will be Days Like This

ilovegreeninspiration_canopy_bed_2I know I’m not alone as I lay in my bed feeling hopeless, lost and confused. My attempts at reading my personal development book resulted in tears and made me question my decisions even further. How did I get here? What happened that I ended up in this position? Yes my life may look put together from the outside. But I promise you it’s not. I have a million things that go through my head every day and they all seems to contradict each other. Nothing is ever black and white, how Id like it to be. NO! I swear my brain has invented new shades of grey just to make me even more confused than I already was.

What I thought I wanted for my life has hit a road block and to be honest I have no idea why! Why is it that pushing to live my dream and my passion is so hard?! I guess what they say about if it’s worth it it’s not easy is true. But boy this better be worth it! I love helping people and that will never change but I’m struggling right now for the distinction that I need to make this my own.


I am searching for something that only I will know what it is when I find it. No one else can tell me what it is except me. And let me tell you. That certainly doesn’t make things any easier! I know this dream I have for my life. But all the steps in between are so unclear.
So where do I go from here?

Forward! I know where I have come from and what I have been through and I am going to ensure that I use it to propel me into the life I dream about. I will ensure that my decisions and actions align with my goal. I want my whole life to be aligned. It is when one part of you is going against the rest that things stop making sense. When you feel like you are fighting to hold on to yourself or constantly needing to recharge, it is time to let go of what is causing that energy to be drawn out of you. It can only go on for so long. You can only fight for so long until you are broken down and you either give in or give up. Never let yourself reach that point. Listen to your gut and believe what it is telling you. It will never fail you. I promise you this.


Super Fantabulous Energizing Saturday

Not my usual way of describing a Saturday that is for sure (especially because I am normally working). But this Saturday wasn’t like most. This Saturday I was surrounded by a group of amazing people who were all passionate about helping others reach for their goals and living the healthiest happiest life they possibly could!


What could be better than this?

Not much let me tell you!

I knew about this event a while before I committed to going. Why? Because I had to make sacrifices to go, I had to take the day off work, which meant giving up a busy waitressing shift and loosing out on money. I also had to give up some sleep to get up early and get to the event. Ill be honest this wasn’t easy to do! January is the slowest month for waitressing so its a really big sacrifice to give up a good shift. But I worked really hard in December and I knew that going to this event would help propel my business and my personal journey in the new year so I finally bit the bullet and made the decision to go!

And boy was it worth it!

Not only did I get to meet new people


I gained some amazing perspective and therefore goals for the new year.

I have decided that this year will be my strongest year yet! I will not only be stronger physically, but mentally, emotionally and financially!! I know that wont be easy and it will take a lot of hard work, but I know its possible!

Some takeaways that I learned on this amazing Saturday are:


Never stop running toward your dreams!

Take control of your life and your destiny! No one else will change your life except you. So stop blaming other people, other situations, or your circumstances and take control of your life and start making the changes and decisions that will help you reach your goals.

Ask the universe for what you want! How you think affects what you say and do. So think positively and look for the positive in life, and you will start to see more positive things. We all have an internal voice that will govern what we think or say or do. What is yours telling you? Check that voice, don’t let it tell you that you can’t do things, because it will convince you that you can’t if you let it.

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Courage is simply the willingness to be afraid and act anyways

You cant give a shit about what other people thing

We also got to eat some yummy energy balls before our group exercise, they were the perfect pick me up, since I forgot a snack and the event went late.



1 cup  oatmeal  or steel cut oats

1/2 cup all natural peanut butter 1/3 cup raw honey                              1 cup unsweetened coconut flakes 1/2 cup ground flaxseed                           1 scoop Shakeology – any flavor     1 tsp natural vanilla

Mix all together and form into balls.  Wrap with wax paper and store in freezer.

Note :   you can also throw in 1/2 cup mixed nuts for some added crunch.  If you choice to do this, you might need a splash of water.



We all have two dates in common

Start date – End date

What will you do with your dash?




Searching for our dreams and passion. 

Finding my passion was always something that I was stumped on. Not just unsure of, but had absolutely no idea where to even start even trying to find my passion. I thought I knew what my passion was, I really did. I wanted to help people, then I tried to follow that passion and it didn’t work. I went to school. Got my degree in Nutrition and Food and applied for my internships because that is what you did after you graduated. But I didn’t get in to anyplace that I applied to, and I was lost. I hated my job and couldn’t even get a job in the field that I went to school for. I didn’t know what to do or where to turn. They didn’t prepare you for what you do when you don’t get your internship. All your training to to help you become a Registered Dietitian, but what happens when that doesn’t work out?

600403_4523316134930_345577266_nYou feel like you failed, and are lost and confused. Your dream that you worked for four years to pursue is gone, just like that!

I looked at tons of different fields and thought about going to back to school but I couldn’t decide what to do. I think I changed my mind a couple times a month for 6 months! I talked to people in different fields tried to get an idea of what different jobs were really like and what the best way to get it that field was.

But nothing ever felt right. I remember telling my ex I just wanted to help people. But he didn’t think that’s really what I wanted to do. I knew in my heart that I did what to do that, but I couldn’t figure out how to do it. I originally thought I wanted to become a dietitian, but it caused me so much pain and I resented it. I couldn’t even stand talking about the field i was hurt so badly be my failure. So what to do?

I finally decided, after talking to an executive director, that I wanted to go into marketing. I loved a lot about the field and decided that it would give me more opportunities. Even though it meant that I would be giving up on helping people. So I redid my resume and applied to admin and marketing jobs. But nothing was working. I was trying the hardest I have in my life to find a job and nothing!!


It wasn’t until I was talking to a friend who started up a fitness coaching biz and I tried one of their programs that it clicked. This is what I want to be doing! I still has that passion for helping people. That will never go away. But now I have a way to help women live healthier and happier lives while designing my own life. And the best part is that I have the opportunity to help others do the exact same as me. I can let people follow their dreams and help others while making a living for them self. I feel like I stumbled upon the greatest gift ever.

While I am still working as a waitress to help pay the bills, my feeling of failure has disappeared. I finally feel like i am making difference in peoples lives. Although it may not pay all the bills right now, its getting there! I believe in this business because I know that everyone deserves to feel healthy and happy and like their life has meaning, because it does!
If you struggle to find your passion look at your heart and what it beats faster for. But also look at what you do when you don’t have to do anything else. I work my business. in my downtime I work, when I have any spare moment I work! I put off laundry and chores to work! WHY?? Let me tell you its not because anyone is making me or telling me to. its because I absolutely love what I am doing! That is how you know that you are meant to be in the job that you are in. When you wake up in the morning and you are excited to go to work!

If you don’t feel this way I would love to help you find your passion, and live the life of your dreams.


Turn your Resolutions into a Reality

This is the time of year that you see the push of people picking up fitness habits and healthy eating. But what happens when the hype of the new year is over and life goes back to normal?

Where are you left then?

What have you set up so that you are held accountable to your goals?

Are you just winging it and hoping for results?

Are you going to the gym. Doing work outs and trying to eat better? What if that isn’t enough?



I’m not saying that you have to be going to the gym and working out for hours a day. Because you certainly do not!! But you need a schedule, something tried and true that produces results and will keep you accountable to your goals.

A program that uses just 30 mins of working out a day, with portion control containers and a fail proof eating plan.


The most important part of this program is the accountability and a coach! Someone to share your goals with, but more importantly, your struggles. Someone who is there to support and motivate you. And a group of like minded women who share their successes with you.

Comment with your email address, and ill send you more information!

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